This post is a tribute to Gary - from your "cuz" who promises to to always remember you, and is sure that you will remain the only person he didn't mind calling him "bruv".
It took a lot of reflection on my part to figure out whether I should write this post or not. I had a lot of questions about this piece that didn't, then, exist. Is it too much disclosure? Is it too soon? Do I feel as if I have to? Do I feel as if I shouldn't? Save for the recipe itself, this opening paragraph was the last I wrote, and I know now that writing this helped me develop my feelings on the matter. It was as I had always suspected, food and food writing) could be a conduit to more meaningful expression.
A couple of days ago my family suffered a loss. I'm not going to go into the specifics or the background of what happened, but it was unexpected, and it was so incredibly premature. There are no good times for someone to pass away, but it's somewhat comforting at least to be able to reflect on the long-life of a departed one. However, longevity isn't everything, and there are so many people who have known his kindness, despite whatever else may have been going on.
In the past, encountering death had been expected and we had all been privileged with the ability to steel ourselves. This time, we were not so lucky. It's hard to know what I'm feeling. Sometimes I want to scream "why aren't you feeling anything?" at myself. Other times, I find myself lathering shower gel into my hair, kind of like a self-driving car speeding down the wrong road. Everything comes in inconsistent waves, so it's hard to know how I'm going to feel hour-by-hour.
I'm also very aware that I am further from the epicentre than many around me. Though I'm oscillating between sadness, meandering and shock, my ability to wake up in the morning and actively cultivate the necessary mechanisms of coping hasn't generally been disabled. As much as I can talk about the mass of loss, our shoulders are not evenly burdened. I can walk into the kitchen and access the thing that provides me with a degree of calmness and constancy. I can write, even if it is a slower process than usual.
This was laid very clear to me today. My uncle came over today; he has just lost his son, and I can't even attempt to imagine what it must be like to sit in an empty house absorbing those kind of shock waves. It's a very common practice to prepare food for those who are in the mires of grief; this seemed to me a way to use my own source of comfort to (hopefully) help someone else slightly.
I made a batch of Penang curry - a family favourite, and my first time cooking meat for quite a few years (I have reconciled this by reminding myself that I am not eating it). I had also planned to make some kind of soup for at lunch time, which I extended to my family members who were present at the time. Honestly, knowing what is appropriate food for someone who is grieving is tricky. There is no such thing as "mourning food", so we just have to try and hope for the best.
Last night, I read a recent blog post from the venerable Smitten Kitchen (white bean soup with crispy kale - link here!) which stated that the question she always had for bowls of soup was "must every spoonful be exactly like the one before?". It's a understandable question, isn't it? But, that kind of constancy seemed perfect for this context. You know exactly what you're getting with each spoonful. Perhaps monotonous for every day circumstances; comfortingly consistent for this one.
Before I go any further, I have to say that I don't think I could have written this post if I hadn't previously read the passages of the blog Orangette (link here!). Molly's writing contributed significantly to my understanding that the food we cook isn't "just food" but something indissolubly bound to our feelings and experiences. This blog almost definitely wouldn't exist without that, at least not in this form.
Golden Parsnip Soup
Right off the bat, I have to address that the auspicious nomenclature seems incongruous with the circumstances I have just described. Yes, that's true. But it describes perfectly this turmeric-hued concoction, so you will have to forgive me (just this once). It is, indeed, the perfect colour of Autumn.
I don't often make soup, so the temptation to experiment with flavour was strong. I mean, why not sprinkle in a dash of sumac and see what happens? Maybe some lemongrass? Perhaps some chopped coriander? Of course, you are welcome to try all these things and more, but I had to stop myself; these suggestions were all coming from my usual head-space. While the spices here aren't necessarily conservative, they are mellow. In spite of my usual gung-ho attitude, this restraint definitely worked in favour of the soup. Lessons learned? Eh, maybe.
The result is a thick soup that you would want to slowly consume while sprawled on a seat attached to a large bay window (if only...) as a spray of rain assaults the outside world. It is sweet and woody, with enough of a savoury balance to ensure that no flavour dares to overwhelm. It might be worth making a large batch of this and saving it for days where a sense of quietude is sorely needed.
A note on a equipment is perhaps warranted. My cooking very rarely features anything that could be referred to as equipment, apparatus or otherwise. I am probably overly suspicious of kitchen devices, and am too often inclined to think "whaaaa? But I can do that myself?" as well as being very anxious around spending money. Because of this, I don't own a soup maker (though, I have seen one in action, and they are mesmerising in the same way a washing machine is). I do own a stick blender, but in the name of ease did not use it. You, however, are welcome to use whatever device makes you feel happiest!
Ingredients & Method
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cooking time: 20 minutes
Serves 3-4 people
5 large parsnips
2 cloves of garlic
1 inch piece of ginger
300 ml of vegetable stock
1 tbsp of soy sauce
400 ml of coconut milk
2 tbsp of turmeric
1 tsp of cumin
1 tsp of paprika
1/2 a tsp of chilli powder
1 tsp of maple syrup (optional)
1 tsp of sour cream (optional)
A few leaves of parsley (optional)
Slice the top and bottom sides of the parsnips and peel the skin off of them. Roughly chop into medium sized chunks. Put these to the size.
Crush the cloves of garlic and finely chop and slice the ginger into small pieces.
Over a medium heat, warm 1/2 a tbsp of vegetable oil in a wide saucepan before frying the garlic and the ginger for 1 minute, being careful not to burn them.
Add the parsnips to the saucepan and stir with a wooden spoon. Take care to bring the spoon to the bottom of the pan, before raising it to the top. This will ensure that the parsnips are evenly coated with the oil.
Prepare your vegetable stock. When choosing a vegetable stock, I don't think it's hugely important which one you use - however I would err away from ones that are particularly salty. If you have a pre-made vegetable stock lying around then all the better! However I wouldn't dream of requesting that you prepare one from scratch in the interests of making this soup. If needed, make your stock weaker, rather than overly potent. The stock is meant to be the savoury base of the soup, rather than a dominant taste.
Add the soy sauce to the prepared vegetable stock before pouring on to the parsnips along with the spices and stirring everything together to combine into a burnt-gold coloured mixture.
Bring the saucepan to the boil before turning down to a low-medium heat and simmering for 15 minutes. After this time, check that the parsnips have softened and, if so, proceed to blend them into a soup. At this point, the simmering pot may smell bitter; do not be alarmed! The spices will mellow out as it cooks.
Here is where you need to think about both the equipment you have in your kitchen (as well as what you're willing to wash up at the end of the process) and the consistency you want the soup to be. Using a stick blender will result in a smoother soup. However, using a potato masher (as I did) will give you variably sized chunks of parsnips throughout, which to me feels like the heartier solution.
If using a masher, repeatedly press down on the chunks until loosely combined. The mixture should now resemble a thick puree.
Once everything has been combined, add the can of coconut milk and stir into the soup, loosening up the texture. At this point taste the soup. If you would prefer a touch of sweetness, add a tsp of maple syrup. If you think the spices need adjusting, then do so at this point (how you adjust them is up to you, of course!)
Once you are satisfied with the way the flavours are balanced, bring the soup to the boil before taking off the heat and spooning into bowls. It may look like it isn't enough to feed four people, but do bear in mind that it is quite a dense concoction. On serving this to four people, two couldn't finish their portions (out of satiation, not revulsion). The density means that the soup is good by itself, however a roughly cut chunk of bread wouldn't go amiss either.
Optionally, swirl in some sour cream and scatter with parsley to broaden out the taste. However, served without garnish (I hate this word, but I hate the word topping even more) it is reassuringly comforting.
Adjustments
Instead of parsnips, other root vegetables or perhaps even gourds could be used. There are many possibilities for this, but might I suggest butternut squash, pumpkin or swede (rutabaga)?
Spices can be changed to suit your tastes. Not even going to suggest how. That one's on you!
This recipe IS vegan, however you will have to choose not to use the sour cream at the end (which is optional anyway). However, if you did want to use an alternative, I think a plain vegan yoghurt would be great - perhaps even a coconut flavoured one? I say this tentatively, however!
Instead of vegetable stock, you could use chicken if that is what you have/prefer. I'm sure other types of stocks could be used also. This can apply to vegetarians too, as some meat flavoured stocks are vegetarian friendly!